Christmas and the festive season is the time where families get together, a time of sharing and spending quality time together.
This may also be the moment where you start to realise that your parents/grandparents aren’t coping as well as they used to and it could be time for the ‘Birds & Bee’s’ Aged Care Version.
According to Aged Care Ready Associate Director, Naomi Anderson, there will be signs such as unsteadiness on their feet (needing to hold on to furniture as they walk around the room), the house is not as ‘kept’ or tidy as it used to be, the fridge is empty, or you notice that they have lost weight.
“Another indicator that it’s possibly time to start the conversation is if your loved one has started shying away from social activities that they used to find joy in – a lack of motivation to do things they love,” says Ms Anderson.
So where do you start?
“Starting off broad is always my suggestion, and make them feel like they are included in the conversation,” she shares.
Relay what you have seen and ask questions such as “have you thought about what kind of care you would like to have when the time comes?”.
“Be supportive, ask them if they need any support in the home now to promote their independence to ensure they can stay home for longer,” Naomi advises.
“I think it’s vital to have these conversations sooner rather than later as it gives your loved one control in the decision making process, rather than waiting until it’s too late and that choice taken away from them.”
Having an open discussion with your loved one and your family will ensure that their needs and wants will be upheld when the time comes.
Relaying your concerns to your loved one’s GP can also be beneficial, as the conversation may be taken differently from someone outside of the immediate family circle.
Starting the conversation is never easy.
A lot of the time, our elderly loved ones let emotions cloud their judgement, which then results in them fighting the conversation.
But if it is approached in a supportive way, in the best interest of your loved one, then only good can come of it.
If you or your loved ones need any assistance in navigating the Aged Care industry, give us a call on 1300 023 589.